"Anything?" by Andrea MacLeod
Honey, sweet heart, pumpkin… you can do aaaaannnnnything you want and I’ll never stop trusting you. Never! This is the kind of trust that is needed in building a 50 year marriage. Without Trust, the level of love in a marriage does not grow in depth; it just stays fragile hovering on the surface. In a marriage; love will come and go. Each year our feelings for each other will fade and return, just as the seasons change. The love that all married couples seek,can be found in Trust.
Look at trust the way you look at an insurance
policy. Making monthly installments is not that hard, for some it feels automatic; hardly giving it a second thought. Trust is also quite effortless when all is going well. Now imagine a crisis happens and you need to make an insurance claim and your broker says, “We’re not going to cover you. We don’t think you deserve it.” Trust is the insurance policy guaranteed to cover you when you need it most. When things go wrong and we want to pull the trust away; is precisely when we need to trust the most. Honey, sweetheart, pumpkin… You can do aaaannnnything you want and I’ll never stop trusting you. Never. This kind of trust will set your marriage back on track if it has fallen off, and will heal all wounds caused by an ever recovering broken heart. Trust is what moves marriages to a deeper level of love. Trust is what teaches our children how to be responsible, is what builds character and is what transforms lives. Trust is a gift we give.
Do you think you have what it takes to succeed in a 50 year marriage? Because, really, this is it. Being married is hard. Being happily married takes work. Work normally isn’t always fun. Work takes commitment, and discipline and being responsible. Then once you are in the groove of success and have figured out how to bounce back from stuff that randomly happens, you will have more and more fun as the years go on.
Get through several dozen trials and character building challenges; that’s what builds a relationship into something magical.
Written by Andrea MacLeod, Vancouver BC