Relationship Q&A
"What does WomensVille think about Internet Dating Services?"
December 17, 2009 by · 2 Comments
A bit skeptical about the whole internet dating service method. There is a lot of excitement from the women we’ve met who’ve been ‘matched up’…soul mate, find your best friend, matching you with someone compatible… sounds good but?
I think time will tell. I think the advice I’m giving is for all women, no matter how you met your partner. Doing what works, being responsible, and staying in reality instead of fantasy. Based on what we know about women making decisions with their emotions we suggest you take away all of the emotions behind who you think he is, and see what the facts say about who he actually is. Where he lives, how he keeps his home, the friends he keeps, how responsible he is with money are the crucial elements a woman needs to know when looking for a life long mate.
I agree that you must be careful of internet marriage sites, but I also know a woman who has married twice from meeting 2 men on a MORMON dating website. Her first husband had a serious disease and died after 4 years, so a couple of years later she went back to the site and found a great man, who is a aeronautical engineer, and has 4 children. She has no children, so welcomed becoming a parent. One of the commonalities was the religion of course and it might not be so successful if that were not the case.
After my separation a family member pushed me to set up a profile on an online dating site. At first I didn’t take it seriously. It was more a distraction from my pain than anything. I chatted through messages with several nice guys but never took it beyond that, at first. I had a criteria in mind, what Mr Right’s hobbies had to be, likes dislikes and so on. Nobody seemed to fit the bill.
Then one man I was chatting with by messages and email began to stand out. We actually had little in common according to our profiles and the dating site didn’t even consider us a match, yet we connected. In an indescribable way. If not for that site I would never have met him and I would probably still be depressed and miserable, never knowing what a wonderful life I missed out on.
From the first time we met it felt like we had known each other forever. Even people meeting us for the first time thought we had known each other many years.
Online dating sites are just one more way to meet people, just don’t bother with their “recommended matches”. Explore!