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The top 10 ways to heal a broken friendship.
June 30, 2011 by Womensville · 6 Comments
The trouble with women:
The woman with the biggest ego wins, but the woman with the biggest character succeeds 10 fold.
What stands out for me to be a crucial understanding and embrasing of our dark and light sides is this:
* women want to be known
* women compete in relationship
* women in their egos will not yield
* find women you can trust
* find a bigger problem
* do what works
I highly recommend reading this article from the Sunday times in the UK. Good for a chuckle, titled “The trouble with women; forget the fairy tales.”
So if you are ever stuck in a pickle of wondering what to do with a friendship that has gone totally sour for whatever reason, and you can’t seem to move past the pain, here’s some help for you.
The top 10 ways to heal a broken friendship.
10. Take 100% ownership for your wrong doings.
9. Ask for forgiveness and accept whatever their response.
8. speak kindly about her at all times.
7. Stop others from speaking unkindly of her.
6. Trust that your character is being built during this hard time.
5. Be the bigger woman, if she is stuck in not getting over the incident, have the relationship with her on her terms. (this is where big character comes in)
4. The woman with the bigger ego wins, but the woman with the biggest character succeeds 10 fold. (you may never be friends again, but you can be pleasant, kind and generous anyway).
3. Surround yourself with women who will remind you of the wonderful woman that you are.
2. DO NOT FEED the monkeys in your head that are trying to keep you stuck,confused and powerless.
1. Writing her off is what teenagers do so that they can be right,don’t write her off, we’re adults now.
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Wow. I love this Andrea! I will share this with lots of women…a great resource to go back to. Thank you!
Awesome words and points to live by. I am happy to say I have adopted alot of them for some of my tougher relationships. But I do love point #4 and think its the most important one for me! Keep up the great work and learnings Andrea. xo
I found your blog through #blogchat. I’m glad I did! I need a place like this. I love your tips on how to heal a broken friendship. I am pretty shy and don’t make friends easily. As a result, I don’t have any women friends currently to talk or go out with. I’m working on this but it’s difficult and painful. Hopefully, I can improve my situation soon since I’m the only one who can.
Patti,
You are perfect and beautiful. Every baby step counts. Be kind to yourself. No one is perfect, ever. I hope you can find the beauty in your shyness. Life would be so borring if we were all the same wouldn’t it? Keep up the great work. Andrea MacLeod. p.s see ya around on #blogchat!!
I must admit that I am one of those black and white people. In my world, there are lines you can cross and be forgiven for and lines you can’t. I have a big heart and will be there 100%, but if the wrong line is crossed, I do cut that person out forever. Like you said, probably not the most grown up approach, however what kind of friend are you if you cross an unforgivable line…not one that really cares about me.
I must admit that I am one of those black and white people. In my world, there are lines you can cross and be forgiven for and lines you can’t. I have a big heart and will be there 100%, but if the wrong line is crossed, I do cut that person out forever. Like you said, probably not the most grown up approach, however what kind of friend are you if you cross an unforgivable line…not one that really cares about me.