If you have a husband, do him a huge favor,

          tell him your going to the mall with your girlfriend. I’m 

          betting he’ll be so happy  with the news, that he might

          even say “Here’s a $1,000 take your time.”

I was at the mall this morning with “mini-me”, and as we stopped for lunch at the food fair, I was struck by all the men there.

I was first creeped out by the old, unshaven, loitering men who were staring at me while I agonized in line for what felt like an eternity.

Then as I sat down, far away where no elderly eyeballs could see, I noticed all of the other men sitting with their women having lunch. It was interesting to say the least. Most all were listening to their women with a glazed look over their face with the occasional darting of eyes that were pulled towards the magnetic women who strolled passed. The others sat scratching lotto tickets. All I could think was, “not one of those guys looks happy to be here.” Ladies, if you are single, don’t go the mall to shop for men even though there are plenty of them there. And once you get yourself a boyfriend or if you have husband, do him a huge favor, tell him your going to the mall with your girlfriend and you’ll see him later. I’m betting he’ll be so happy  with the news, that he might even say “Here’s a $1000, take your time.”

Andrea.

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Today if I could order a serving of amnesia, and have all of my memories of who I think I am, and who all of my friends think I am and all of the laim validations of what made me the woman I am today, perhaps that would help me to not be influenced by social status and fashion ever again. 

I would decide that I’ve always been the kind of woman that never ever compared herself with other women.

I would just decide that I was always in love with my life, and pretend that my life was exactly the way I dreamed my life would be from the time I was nine.

‘Check please’.

Andrea.

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Thank you Marci Shimoff for joining Womensville Radio. Thank you for sharing yourself with us so intimately. I really loved your story of forgiveness that you shared about you and your sister. Sharing how to “Love for no reason” is a profound message that I hope women will be touched by as I was.” Host of Womensville Radio, Andrea MacLeod.

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Marci Shimoff (Shy-Moff) is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and a world-renowned transformation teacher. As an expert on happiness, success, and unconditional love, Marci has inspired millions of people around the globe, sharing her breakthrough methods for personal fulfillment and professional success. Her newest book, Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love is brand new out right now. In it, Marci introduces a revolutionary program to live in a deep and lasting state of love and shows you how to access that at any time and in any circumstance. Marci’s other books include the runaway bestseller, Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out and six titles in the phenomenally successful Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul series. Her books have sold more than 14 million copies worldwide in 33 languages, have topped all of the major bestseller lists, and have been on the New York Times bestseller list for a total of 118 weeks. Marci is one of the bestselling female nonfiction authors of all time. Marci is the also the host of the national PBS television special called Happy for No Reason. In addition, she’s a featured teacher in the international film and book sensation, The Secret. Marci is a professional speaker and a leading expert on happiness, success, and unconditional love. She is dedicated to helping people live more empowered and joy-filled lives. Please join me in welcoming to our show today, Marci Shimoff. (after the interview) To learn more about Marci, please visit her website www.TheLoveBook.com

 

Here are some of the topics that women just like you are talking about on the Womensville.com FORUM. You are welcome to comment on any of these. Be brave. Offer your voice and offer your own struggles. We are all women and we all know how it feels to be stuck. We also know how it feels to get unstuck. Success stories are always welcome! Your story could change the life of another.

•    How can I learn to trust myself more? by Dazed and Confused 
•    My friend is breaking my heart! by Martyr’s Friend 
•    TV and Computer Intake Challenge by Andrea MacLeod
•    As you stand in the light of success, be warned the minute you start focusing (at all) on your own needs, you will be whipped off the success track like one of those mass train derailments. I promise you this. by womensville 
• Fantasy: “I want to be able to tell him everything, that’s what real trust is in a relationship.” by womensville 
• Making decisions in your relationship is no place for your emotion filled fantasies. by womensville 
• Turning it around on a dime. Relationship Tension. by Andrea MacLeod
•  Is this a sign of infedelity? by Confused in BC 
• Does he have what it takes? by Lily  
•  Relationship Mentor by Lily  
•  Living Together by Lily 
• Marriage is Seasonal by womensville 
• Going to the next level by WhatToDo 
• It’s all about Perception Baby. He can and IS your Knight, right now. by Andrea MacLeod 
• I can’t take his negative attitude anymore. help! by VancouverGirl 
• Living with Grumpy…any help or opinions would be great! by Sunshine67
• 3 dates and you’re out – do I say so or not? 
• Sister, We Need To Talk by Lynnette 
• What’s Your Bliss? by womensville 
• Dating – when to narrow it down to one by Lily
• Feeling Frustrated by Tania C 
• I cheated on my husband by Girlie Girl 
• Learning about his terms or being walked over? by Lily  

Women need to express all the time. The mere act of expressing is often all a woman needs, to come to her senses and make the necessary changes to get the results she wants.

Sometimes women need to express and be related to, before we can believe that we are not alone and that our problem isn’t unique.

Womensville’s Forum is a place to express whatever is encumbering you.  Womensville.com will respond to all posts like this; We will assume you the reader/listener are already at a place of high self esteem. If the advice given  does not sit well for you ask yourself, “how would I respond to this if I were in a state of high self esteem?” Then decide if taking your self esteem level into your own hands is something you want to do, so that you can access results. This, my friend is what personal coaching is all about. We’re here to help you get results. REAL results.

Before you post something on the forum it will be helpful to you if you first decide if what you want and need is;

a) just a place to vent

b) seeking someone who can relate to you, so that you can access hope and  not feel alone.

c) needing a place to be right

d) ready to access the advice given by womensville, by taking responsibility for raising your level of self esteem, so that the advice can best reach you and give you the results you are looking for.

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Picture this: You get up in the morning, it is a bright and beautiful day, and you are in a good mood because you got the sleep you needed. You get ready for work, turn on the news, perhaps read the headlines in the newspaper and then you walk over to your computer check your Facebook account or email. As you eat breakfast, you multi task trying to get the kids off to school. As you grab your car keys on the way out the door, you are feeling a little down, perhaps even starting to feel agitated or cranky – and you definitely have less energy.
Has that happened to you before? Ever wonder why or what you could do about it?
Here is something to consider. What was on the news? What was on your newsfeed in Facebook or in your email? Have you really taken a look at how many people are complaining out there? It is a mass epidemic! There appears to be less and less positive communication to feed our minds out there or so it would seem.
Actually, there is an abundance of positive communication and people out there than there is negative, it is a matter of “spring cleaning” the negative to allow the positive to grow and flourish. The negative things in our world don’t need much attention to grow like a bad weed in the garden. In fact even if you try to ignore the problem, it spreads until you decide to do something to remove it completely.
Now I know there are some things we think we can’t do to get rid of the negativity in the world, but really there are things you are in control of. Why not start by “spring cleaning” the complainers in your world?
Do you ever sit and watch your Facebook newsfeed? How many on there update their status messages with a complaint? Mr. Smith “has a headache”; Jane Doe says, “the noise is awful and the kids are screaming again”; Susan Dreamer writes, “I am soooo sick!”. And so on. Then, there are those that update frequently with many complaints. Sometimes, reading these will zap a little positive energy from you to the point that you can almost feel what they are complaining about and thus it starts to pull you down.
Watch and see how many actually are complaining on a regular basis; my guess is you will find more than you had thought would be there. Then choose to do some “spring cleaning” and hide them or de-friend them depending on what your relationship is. You can then monitor what happens to your energy and I will bet ten to one it goes up.
It is a small task, but one that has great power if you give it the room to grow in your world. You can start there and then move on to the bigger negative things in your world and remove those. This will make room for so much more sunshine, happiness and energy to bloom!

Special thanks to Lynnette for this contributioin.

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Lynnette Vetsch, Director
Amaxa Coaching and Training Services
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If there is someone that you feel has made a negative impact on your life, choose to let them off the hook. Forgiveness isn’t about them; it’s about releasing yourself from whatever has been encumbering YOU by not forgiving them.

Try this…

“So-and-so, you owe me nothing & I forgive you.”

For most of us, blaming someone else for our misery and poor choices satisfies the longing to be made right.

It takes a lot of courage to forgive someone, especially for the unforgiveable. Forgiveness can be done a number of ways. You could write it in a letter. Sharing that letter with a friend is very helpful, then either mail it or burn it, either work.

Simply writing out the statement, “____________, I forgive you for, “xyz”, you owe me nothing, and you are not responsible for me or my actions. I forgive you.” Then just leave it like that in your journal. You could write in a dozen names and forgive them all, and all will be forgiven, just by writing in your journal.

Perhaps it is time to pull up the Big Girl Panties and just do it!

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After spending over 20 years meeting regularily with womens groups these seem to be the common issues that come up for women.Keep in mind most of these women I’ve been meeting with have been under observation for many many years, so I  have seen many common relationship problems, dilemas, challenges as well as celebrations and miracles. These are topics I would love to talk about if anyone has any questions about it.

“When everyone else says He’s not the one, but I know for sure he his.”

“We get home from holidays and it was the best thing we ever did. Within a week every thing’s gone to pot again. How can I make those ‘good feelings’ last?”

“As long as I keep busy,my relationship is in excellent shape. Denial vs. Purpose.”

“I used to like that about him, now I despise it.”

“How could we have been so happy for so long and now I can’t stand even looking at him?”

“So you’re leaving. My guess is, you’ve been planning your exit for at least the last 2-5 years.”

“For the amount of time that went into planning your exit, will require the same amount of planning to lead it back to being healed and transformed.”

If  you can relate to these topics please do post questions on the blog or send them to us and we’ll post them for you.

Here for you.

Andrea MacLeod,

Founder of Womensville.

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Motherland, a film by Jennifer Steinman.

On December 1, 2006, six women from diverse backgrounds came together to take a very unique trip: a 17-day intensive pilgrimage to volunteer in rural South Africa. Prior to the journey, these six women did not know each other. However they all shared one thing in common: they had all suffered the death of a child.  “Motherland” is a documentary film that reveals what happened, and the lives that were forever changed, on this journey of hope and healing.

Thank you Jennifer, for the women’s lives that have been touched by this film and for spending time on womensville radio sharing what it was like filming.

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 Womensville Presents, “Sister We Need to Talk” book signing and mini workshop for you and the women in your life.

Andrea MacLeod Founder of Womensville, and Author of “Sister We Need to Talk” will open the event talking about why she wrote the book “Sister We Need to Talk” and will touch on topics that she has witnessed over her 20 year study on women, women’s groups, relationships and parenting.

Andrea says, “Women have what they need to have everything they could want in their relationships, the key is to have like minded women in your life so that you are not alone. Women are so important to each others lives. I can’t stress this enough.”

The floor will then be open for a Question and Answer period that will run for a proximately 1 hour.   Books will be available for $15.00 each.

 Top Ten Reasons to invite Womensville to your next women’s gathering:

10. Women love having a reason to meet, schmooze and have fun together.

9. A great way to have your work collegues get to know each other.

8. A great way to network.

7. A chance to see if Womensville may be something you’d like to have for future events or seminars that have to do with women’s topics or writing seminars.

6. A place to fit in, and see that you are not alone. Women are women.

5. Hear about 20+years of up close and personal women’s group studies from an expert.

4. Meet the Author and get your book signed.

3. A place to gain  insight on important questions that you have in your life.

2.Learn more about how Womensville.com can help you in having successful and productive relationships.

#1 Reason to have Womensville at your next women’s event: Andrea MacLeod is eager to share with you why and how she came up with all of the information in her new book. Making new friends is always at the top of her list! She’s not sure how long she’ll be available to do this, so act now, while it’s still free.

If you are interested in having Womensville come to your office, home or conference room, please contact info@womensville.com and we will send you a list of available dates for 2010.

Left to its own, your relationship will cool off as quickly as a kettle on your counter does after it’s reached a boil.

Relationships are commitments. They aren’t a carnival. You don’t pay once and then ride free all day or all year. Maintenance, contribution, recovering from mistakes, forgiving; this is the the price we pay for a successful relationship. It ain’t cheap. But you can pay now, or pay later, and often if you pay later, it costs more.

 Look at it like an investment in your relationship. Some investments don’t work out, but at least you knew you took the chance, and with a responsible attitude you will say, “Thank you for that wonderful experience, I wish you all the best.” and then NEXT….move on.

I don’t see anything wrong with your relationship history, that is if you are acting like a grown up about it. If you are throwing away relationships with good quality men because you are bored, the issue is more about you needing more time to grow up. Once you’re into the big girl panties,you’ll see that acting like a little girl in your relationships, is about as uncomfortable as a wedgie. 

 When it comes to patterns there is an underlying pay off that keeps us needing to keep recreating the scenario. Even for people on a quest to improve themselves, often what happens is they find more reasons to validate their behavior thus never really needing to do any hard changes.