Self esteem and status. Self Esteem and Status…so women in North America are ruled by their self-esteem and status eh? You know when my self-esteem is high and life is going great, I don’t question this theory. I’m the first to admit that yes, I see it clear as day, especially when looking at the women around me. But me???? Noooo! Not  me!

Ok, fine, even me. I would say I know myself really well. I know my natural strengths and character defects and can safely say that I live a life that is filled with joy and gratitude.  Having fun and rich experiences seem to overrule my need to have material things.

Not long ago I caught a glimpse of a show called party mama’s on TV, and after watching the women act like spoiled brats, out of control B’s, that had no regard for their husbands that were forking out the money for the extravagant party for the four year old, I had to turn it off. I thanked God,(& my parents) that I had been given a no-problem disposition and a humble spirit of gratitude. I felt sick about the thought of ever taking on traits of the women on that show.

Recently one of my own friends said something that I had heard before; yes, I heard it on party mama’s. It sounded like this… “I want what I want and I don’t care how much it costs…” (there was more, but I can’t bear to write it). I left my friends sick to my stomach, and new that she had to be severed from my life. The problem was that I loved this woman and her family; hence the termoil. Then later I had a voice from the heavens tell me…

 “SHE is not your problem.”

 I always trust these loud audible messages,(I don’t always like them) so far they have always been EXACTLY what I needed to hear, no doubt a message from God.  So I asked myself, “What is it, if it’s not her, why do I feel so enraged?What is my problem?” 

The truth was, there was a part of me that wished I were more like her. The fact is, her temper tantrums get her stuff.

The fortunate (or unfortunate depending on how I look at it) thing for me is that I married a man who wouldn’t have married me if I had even a hint of “I want what I want, and I don’t care what it costs.” Nor would he ever tolerate temper tantrums.

 There is no way I could ever behave like her and get away with it, and damn it, she drives a Mercedes, lives in the west end and seems to have access to as much money as she cares to spend.

A slice of humble pie please.

Andrea.

Womensville- a social networking Site foro Women looking for love, divorce alternatives, dating and parenting tips. Speaking to the greatness found in all women.

 

Here are some of the topics that women just like you are talking about on the Womensville.com FORUM. You are welcome to comment on any of these. Be brave. Offer your voice and offer your own struggles. We are all women and we all know how it feels to be stuck. We also know how it feels to get unstuck. Success stories are always welcome! Your story could change the life of another.

•    How can I learn to trust myself more? by Dazed and Confused 
•    My friend is breaking my heart! by Martyr’s Friend 
•    TV and Computer Intake Challenge by Andrea MacLeod
•    As you stand in the light of success, be warned the minute you start focusing (at all) on your own needs, you will be whipped off the success track like one of those mass train derailments. I promise you this. by womensville 
• Fantasy: “I want to be able to tell him everything, that’s what real trust is in a relationship.” by womensville 
• Making decisions in your relationship is no place for your emotion filled fantasies. by womensville 
• Turning it around on a dime. Relationship Tension. by Andrea MacLeod
•  Is this a sign of infedelity? by Confused in BC 
• Does he have what it takes? by Lily  
•  Relationship Mentor by Lily  
•  Living Together by Lily 
• Marriage is Seasonal by womensville 
• Going to the next level by WhatToDo 
• It’s all about Perception Baby. He can and IS your Knight, right now. by Andrea MacLeod 
• I can’t take his negative attitude anymore. help! by VancouverGirl 
• Living with Grumpy…any help or opinions would be great! by Sunshine67
• 3 dates and you’re out – do I say so or not? 
• Sister, We Need To Talk by Lynnette 
• What’s Your Bliss? by womensville 
• Dating – when to narrow it down to one by Lily
• Feeling Frustrated by Tania C 
• I cheated on my husband by Girlie Girl 
• Learning about his terms or being walked over? by Lily  

Women need to express all the time. The mere act of expressing is often all a woman needs, to come to her senses and make the necessary changes to get the results she wants.

Sometimes women need to express and be related to, before we can believe that we are not alone and that our problem isn’t unique.

Womensville’s Forum is a place to express whatever is encumbering you.  Womensville.com will respond to all posts like this; We will assume you the reader/listener are already at a place of high self esteem. If the advice given  does not sit well for you ask yourself, “how would I respond to this if I were in a state of high self esteem?” Then decide if taking your self esteem level into your own hands is something you want to do, so that you can access results. This, my friend is what personal coaching is all about. We’re here to help you get results. REAL results.

Before you post something on the forum it will be helpful to you if you first decide if what you want and need is;

a) just a place to vent

b) seeking someone who can relate to you, so that you can access hope and  not feel alone.

c) needing a place to be right

d) ready to access the advice given by womensville, by taking responsibility for raising your level of self esteem, so that the advice can best reach you and give you the results you are looking for.

Womensville. A social networking site for women.

 Womensville Presents, “Sister We Need to Talk” book signing and mini workshop for you and the women in your life.

Andrea MacLeod Founder of Womensville, and Author of “Sister We Need to Talk” will open the event talking about why she wrote the book “Sister We Need to Talk” and will touch on topics that she has witnessed over her 20 year study on women, women’s groups, relationships and parenting.

Andrea says, “Women have what they need to have everything they could want in their relationships, the key is to have like minded women in your life so that you are not alone. Women are so important to each others lives. I can’t stress this enough.”

The floor will then be open for a Question and Answer period that will run for a proximately 1 hour.   Books will be available for $15.00 each.

 Top Ten Reasons to invite Womensville to your next women’s gathering:

10. Women love having a reason to meet, schmooze and have fun together.

9. A great way to have your work collegues get to know each other.

8. A great way to network.

7. A chance to see if Womensville may be something you’d like to have for future events or seminars that have to do with women’s topics or writing seminars.

6. A place to fit in, and see that you are not alone. Women are women.

5. Hear about 20+years of up close and personal women’s group studies from an expert.

4. Meet the Author and get your book signed.

3. A place to gain  insight on important questions that you have in your life.

2.Learn more about how Womensville.com can help you in having successful and productive relationships.

#1 Reason to have Womensville at your next women’s event: Andrea MacLeod is eager to share with you why and how she came up with all of the information in her new book. Making new friends is always at the top of her list! She’s not sure how long she’ll be available to do this, so act now, while it’s still free.

If you are interested in having Womensville come to your office, home or conference room, please contact info@womensville.com and we will send you a list of available dates for 2010.

There are many short term benefits to being successful and doing what works in your relationships.  Keep in mind all of what is suggested here  can be applied to any relationship, although it is particularly useful with your significant other, in this case referring to men, as same sex relationships are not our expertise.

The short term benefit when you do what works is, immense satisfaction when you decided to do the right thing because you knew it was more important than being right. There are no walls of resistance up, which means there is no reason for anyone to argue with you. It’s nice being irresistible. That’s one of my favorite ways to describe women
who I want to grow up to be like.  Doing what works resonates “I’m ready” to the world. Your usual, everyday problems start to appear smaller as your focus moves away from your own needs.

Here are a few of the LONG TERM  results that come with being a responsible, successful woman in the 21st Century.

You get to: live your passion, be generous, have fun, make new friends, be content, be invited to speak about what you are successful at, generously donate to charities, be irresistible,  write a book, go to book signings, take care of your parents, put your kids and grand kids through university, take regular holidays,  volunteer in whatever turns your crank, give because you can, hire personal trainers and coaches, have your own image consultant, go on spiritual retreats, be powerfully feminine, leave a legacy for your children and grandchildren.  You are purpose filled, content and full of peace.  All of the things your heart desires you can have. It takes work though. Make your own list in your journal. Right now if you like.

Women who have to control everything  miss out on the Joy of receiving help from people who care about them. Control is a false sense of feeling successful. Being Confused is the ultimate form of control…that’s a whole separate topic, but for now what we’re getting at is looking at the idea of letting go of control and letting in the love, really enjoying life, and living in a state of gratitude and contentment.

Control and management aren’t foreign to business women. Just as management works in business it also works in relationships. Control only seems to work when…dog training. (Definition of Control: To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over)  

Here are the dominating traits of a controlling woman;

• hard,
• resistant,
• ego driven,
• bossy,
• unreachable,
•  stubborn
 • self centered,
• irresponsible,
• mean,
• pretentious,
• confused.

Control is what brings out the worst in people,it pushes our friends and family away and leaves us feeling empty inside. Above all control is the culprit for us not being able to access our hearts deepest longings.