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Investing in your relationship ~ here’s how.

Womensville — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 16:31:57 +0000

Today’s Relationship Tip: Better than a shoe sale at Nordstrom’s.

Just like managing money, our relationships need to be managed. Our relationship bank account goes up and down reflective of our generosity or lack there of.

If there is one place I would tell wives to be the most generous, it’s with your life-time mate. Right from the get-go or if you are in need of reviving your whithering marriage, generosity is the only investment that always has a high rate of return. There is no risk when we are being generous; the returns are high and it affects the quality of our daily life and the lives of people we encounter.

A woman who is generous must first be plugged into a state of gratitude or else her generosity will not be sincere.

When life’s daily punches come our way, having a relationship that is built on a foundation of generosity and gratitude, will help us to recover that much quicker.

Having a rich meaningful relationship with your husband takes years of conscious acts of generosity. Make being generous your friend. Tap into all of what’s in it for you to be generous, and in 10 or 15 years, you’ll be saying, “It was the best thing I ever did for my relationship!”

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I thought I wasn’t was one of THOSE women; but I am.

Womensville — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 17:57:16 +0000

Today if I could order a serving of amnesia, and have all of my memories of who I think I am, and who all of my friends think I am and all of the laim validations of what made me the woman I am today, perhaps that would help me to not be influenced by social status and fashion ever again.

I would decide that I’ve always been the kind of woman that never ever compared herself with other women.

I would just decide that I was always in love with my life, and pretend that my life was exactly the way I dreamed my life would be from the time I was nine.

‘Check please’.

Andrea.

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Divorced? It’s never too late.

Tue, 03 Aug 2010 16:41:03 +0000

Divorced? Don’t be too hard on yourself. No woman walks down the isle thinking, “O.K, so 7 years from now, I’m going to leave, my kids are going to live with me two weeks a month, and the man I’m about to marry is not going to be making his child support payments.”

Sometimes the worst case scenario happens (sometimes because too often we focus on that) but what’s done is done. I have personally met women who two years or more after divorcing their husbands and splitting up the kids and a life of hell, they get back together. I’ve seen couples get back together and recreate the relationship and it is nothing short of miraculous. I used to think this was quite unique, but now there are more and more women who are tapping into enlightenment and encouraging their girlfriends to join them. In doing that, women’s social circles see reconsiling things with your ex husband as socially acceptable.

Obviously there’s something huge for the children to gain from this besides the fact that their parents are back together but also they get to see how the two worked things out, and can be included in why everything happened the way it did, and that mom and dad just needed time to work things out.

Now for those of you who cringe at this thought, don’t worry, you too can give your child many gifts from the unfortunate breakdown of your marriage. You may think I’m going to say that showing them you are happy in your next relationship or marriage would be it, but that comes only second to what I’m going to say. The best gift you can give to your children is to have a successful and productive relationship with your ex husband. No badmouthing. No blaming. Always being courteous and kind. Smile at him and laugh with him. Show your children that you have the character to be able to go your separate ways because it was what had to be done, and that you care enough about your children for them to witness that their parents are mature enough to still get along.

The relationship you have with your ex, reveals the truth about your character. Even if he is a complete freak, you can emit forgiveness, cooperativeness and pleasant communication. It doesn’t matter how good your relationship is with your new husband. You and your ex will always be the parents of your children and that is the relationship they will model.

If you are looking for a way to shape your character, tap into enlightenment or make a difference in your community. Start with reconcilingthings with your ex.

Definition of Reconcile:

end conflict: to solve a dispute or end a quarrel

to persuade somebody or yourself to accept that something undesirable cannot be changed.

put people back on friendly terms: to bring two or more people back into a friendly relationship with each other

You’ll be surprised at how reconsiling things with your ex, (whatever that looks like), will impact your life and your children’s future. You will give them skills that they need in life. You will show them how responsible you are. You just might save them from also becoming a product of divorce. You can do it. If you want to.

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What’s up for discussion on the “FORUM” Tab?

Mon, 24 May 2010 21:41:18 +0000

Here are some of the topics that women just like you are talking about on the Womensville.com FORUM. You are welcome to comment on any of these. Be brave. Offer your voice and offer your own struggles. We are all women and we all know how it feels to be stuck. We also know how it feels to get unstuck. Success stories are always welcome! Your story could change the life of another.

Women need to express all the time. The mere act of expressing is often all a woman needs, to come to her senses and make the necessary changes to get the results she wants.

Sometimes women need to express and be related to, before we can believe that we are not alone and that our problem isn’t unique.

Womensville’s Forum is a place to express whatever is encumbering you. Womensville.com will respond to all posts like this; We will assume you the reader/listener are already at a place of high self esteem. If the advice given does not sit well for you ask yourself, “how would I respond to this if I were in a state of high self esteem?” Then decide if taking your self esteem level into your own hands is something you want to do, so that you can access results. This, my friend is what personal coaching is all about. We’re here to help you get results. REAL results.

Before you post something on the forum it will be helpful to you if you first decide if what you want and need is;

a) just a place to vent

b) seeking someone who can relate to you, so that you can access hope and not feel alone.

c) needing a place to be right

d) ready to access the advice given by womensville, by taking responsibility for raising your level of self esteem, so that the advice can best reach you and give you the results you are looking for.

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Forgiveness is for you; not them.

Wed, 14 Apr 2010 00:44:43 +0000

If there is someone that you feel has made a negative impact on your life, choose to let them off the hook. Forgiveness isn’t about them; it’s about releasing yourself from whatever has been encumbering YOU by not forgiving them.

Try this…

“So-and-so, you owe me nothing & I forgive you.”

For most of us, blaming someone else for our misery and poor choices satisfies the longing to be made right.

It takes a lot of courage to forgive someone, especially for the unforgiveable. Forgiveness can be done a number of ways. You could write it in a letter. Sharing that letter with a friend is very helpful, then either mail it or burn it, either work.

Simply writing out the statement, “____________, I forgive you for, “xyz”, you owe me nothing, and you are not responsible for me or my actions. I forgive you.” Then just leave it like that in your journal. You could write in a dozen names and forgive them all, and all will be forgiven, just by writing in your journal.

Perhaps it is time to pull up the Big Girl Panties and just do it!

Tapping into bliss…

Tue, 23 Feb 2010 14:58:50 +0000

What is bliss? I think most would say “A state of extreme happiness.”

As women approach forty, there is an inner knowing of who we really are, who we’re not, and who we won’t ever be. There is also a strong force of knowing who we must be, based on that knowledge.

My challenge to you all is to find a way to tap into the one thing that makes your heart sing like no other. And let it simmer. Let that feeling of bliss melt into the rest of your life. There is nothing more beautiful than being with a woman who is dancing in that bliss and sharing that joy with others. You are one of those women. Share your joy with us and your loved ones. You are beautiful.

Top Ten Reasons to Access Your Bliss:

10.It takes your focus off of yourself and onto a bigger picture.

9.It makes your own problems look smaller when focusing on contributing.

8.It becomes part of the legacy you will leave behind.

7.It exposes who you are to the world around you.

6.It gives you a chance to tap into Gods Plan for you.

5.It gives you a chance to acknowledge your natural strengths.

4.You get to make new friends who are like-minded.

3.You may be able to create your dream job out of it.

2.You can write a book about it and share that with the world.

The number one reason to tap into that state of bliss…..

BECAUSE YOU CAN.

"What constitutes grounds for a break up? How can I be sure not to have any regrets?"

Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:18:21 +0000

Let’s not get silly girls. A woman who trusted herself would not even ask this kind of question. If the relationship wasn’t working, that’s grounds for break up.

Here’s the more important point. Women need to know before they start dating if they are interviewing for a potential husband, or if they are just looking to have fun and have a free meal.

The problem with women is that because our default is to not trust ourselves, and then we throw in a little making decisions with our emotions, we end up sitting at the dining room table with our date with a big neon sign above our heads flashing, “I hope this is the one.” Successful relationship management is an art form, is like running a business, and you are the CEO.

"Is it too late for me to be happily and successfully married?"

Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:10:08 +0000

Sister, it’s never too late.

The real question you need to ask yourself is this: “Do I have what it takes to be successfully married?” It’s not you, it’s our society.

The sad truth is; The level of commitment, the amount of work , and the kind of skills necessary to be happily married, has been underestimated.

However with a little help and constant reminding, married women can be extremely happy and fulfilled in their marriage.

I recommend you read WomensVille’s first book “Sister, We Need to Talk”, it is written for women just like you. To help you get clear about whether being married and starting a family is or is not actually something that fits with what you want. Problem is, most women don’t know what they want. Most seem to want what they can’t have, or if they have it, then they don’t want it any more, that is unless someone else wants it. Being clear is what matters. I’m hoping women like you will walk away from your PC feeling a little clearer about the direction you want to take your relationships, and know how!