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Just because I’m mad doesn’t mean I don’t love you.
September 23, 2011 by Womensville · 2 Comments
It’s officially fall and I made it through my relationship slump and all is WELL! It’s crazy but it’s the God’s honest truth that my relationship goes through this little ‘blip’ that lasts about two and a half months, right smack dab in the middle of summer.
As a homeschooling mom, who lives in a rainforest 9 months of the year, by the time mid spring rolls around I’m about done with everything. My kids can take a hike, my house’s state of spring cleaning is beyond ignoring and if my husband frets about things getting out of hand in the ‘routine’ department well…he can go unstuck himself! I am literally in a state of “I’m done! Let me enjoy my sunshine, I’ll be back mid September.”
Me thinking that this attitude is actually going to help me have a wonderful summer is embarrassing to admit. I’m such an idiot, I should know better.
I’ve had some insights of ‘self sabotage’ patterns and ‘holding back from ‘having it all’ with a sprinkle of ‘I’m not worthy’. Yah those kind of insights. Ewwww!
As I prepare for a production event I am managing next month, I’ve centered my goals around eliminating these three limiting beliefs and am counting on my team of powerful women to assist in my metamorphosis.
I’m feeling especially grateful that when my marriage is in a slump that I never worry about if we’re going to make it. That isn’t a question I ever ask. The question I ask myself is, “are you still going to love him even if your mad?” “OF COURSE I AM DIMWIT!”
One of the recent things I’ve said to my husband is this, “just because I’m mad doesn’t mean I don’t love you.” This has broken a string of patterns in itself and a tip I think is worthy of charging for. I hope some of you can relate, because sometimes I feel like a freak.
My conclusion is this: Andrea MacLeod needs to go shopping for big girl panties every spring, because she really needs to use em’ during summer or she’s gonna have to live with a grizzly ogre. I declare and vow to change my evil ways next year so that this pattern of destruction is gonzo!
Thank you for connecting with me today. I am you, and you are me, which means I love you! Keep on keeping on my lovelies.
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Andrea, Love how you are willing to dissect things publically as you walk through the jungle ( oh I couldn’t let that pass chuckle) of living live as a wife, mother and doing it all homeschooling in the rainforest.
A great point in that, as people how many times have we fretted over if we are loved when our partner is mad. Sounds like you will be getting a lot of resources out of the book you won from Sharon Lecther this summer.
Looking forward to hearing how you are finding shifts in your journey as you transmute your own energy and mindset to align to the live the life you want to live.
I hear you on the relationship cycle. Both myself and some of my friends go through similar patterns with our husbands. It is funny that you said “just because I’m mad doesn’t mean I don’t love you” because my husband always asks “do you still love me?” when I have been mad at him. My answer is always “being mad doesn’t mean I don’t love you”. Ah, we women think alike!