Relationship Q&A
"I'm 40, love my career and know for sure I want to be married and have a family. Why is it taking so long?"
December 17, 2009 by · 4 Comments
The unfortunate thing about women in their 40’s, who think they still want to start a family, is that a lot of the relationship skills necessary to achieve this, are in some degree of atrophy. We hope WomensVille, will be like physio, for your heart and feminine spirit. Putting these suggestions into practice may be uncomfortable and even painful, but the end result will be that you can walk again. (Metaphorically speaking)
WomensVille’s first book, “Sister We Need To Talk.” is dedicated to women in their 30′s and 40′s who are at a crossroads with either staying a successful career woman, or letting it go (to some degree) in order to get married and have a family.
If you have other women in your life who are in the same predicament as you are, I’d recommend downloading the free, “Getting your women’s group started curriculum.” In there you can put together a boot camp for singles. It’s an 8week program that you tailor to fit the needs of the women in the group. IT’S FREE! You’ll have a lot of fun, and you’ll be well on the right path towards your dreams. Did we mention , IT’S FREE!
I have had a difficult time transitioning into being a mother, from being single for so long. Oftten it feels so unfulfiling.
I am a 40+ year old woman and have so many gorgeous, amazing women friends who are single…I so want them to experience what I have in a relationship and so do they but….they all have lists longer than their arms for what they want in a man…
I dont feel like i can set them up on dates with any of my nice man friends as they will find something wrong with him…instead of finding something right…
These women are missing out on so much!!! Let your list go for now and have fun girls….worry about your list another time….please!!!!
Heather,
Your friends are very lucky to have you indeed. Every woman, single or married is on a journey. A journey of self discovery, inner peace and spiritual fulfillment. The best thing you can do for your single friends is to love them. They don’t need you to help them with dating, they need you to be there to listen to their “lists”. They need you to receive their shed tears. They need you to laugh with and bake Christmas cookies with while sharing stories of the past which grows women into learning more about themselves.
Women are so incredibly valuable to each other when we can be there as a listening ear and heart.
It’s normal to want to fix our friends problems or to help them be happy because we can see things they can’t. The thing is, our perception is not the truth, it’s only our perception of how there life is, and where it is going and which road should be taken. It’s so easy to see important details in others that we don’t see in ourselves.
Only the woman herself should be the one to instigate what she is looking for e.g.: set up on dates. When a friend initiates that she wants help, she is more likely to hear and take the advice given. Often the advice given to women by their friends isn’t sound advice, its fantasy based and often unrealistic, the typical “Here, take my advice I’m not using it.”
If you are a woman who is open to growing and flourishing as a woman, lead the way by sharing more of your own heart with her. Share your desires, dreams, hopes and pain. This is more important than trying to help each other. One is risky, the other is easy, can you guess which is which?
I hope this helps. Keep being a great friend to these amazing women in your life you are blessed indeed.
Here is a great broacast that would be great for all single women to tune into, or women in a relationship unsure if the man they are with is truly the right man for her. Please, take the tjme and have a listen.