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Forgiveness is for you; not them.
April 14, 2010 by · 1 Comment
If there is someone that you feel has made a negative impact on your life, choose to let them off the hook. Forgiveness isn’t about them; it’s about releasing yourself from whatever has been encumbering YOU by not forgiving them.
Try this…
“So-and-so, you owe me nothing & I forgive you.”
For most of us, blaming someone else for our misery and poor choices satisfies the longing to be made right.
It takes a lot of courage to forgive someone, especially for the unforgiveable. Forgiveness can be done a number of ways. You could write it in a letter. Sharing that letter with a friend is very helpful, then either mail it or burn it, either work.
Simply writing out the statement, “____________, I forgive you for, “xyz”, you owe me nothing, and you are not responsible for me or my actions. I forgive you.” Then just leave it like that in your journal. You could write in a dozen names and forgive them all, and all will be forgiven, just by writing in your journal.
Perhaps it is time to pull up the Big Girl Panties and just do it!
Forgiveness and Trust go hand in hand by the way. We can talk more about that too if you like.