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I’m going to keep this super simple for you men that ventured over here from Twitter nervously peering into the Womensville world of relationship insanity. (PS, thank you for being here. Now read, and then go back to what you were doing, there’s nothing more here for you.Thank you.)

FIRSTLY: Your Gift Needs to be Beautifully Wrapped with a Bow.  Spend $5 and get it gift wrapped at the mall. (even a bag of pepperoni, gift wrapped says “You’re worth it.” *Don’t even think about it!)

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• JEWELRY in a gift box & GIFT WRAPPED. Ask a pretty clerk what’s a guaranteed hit and buy it.  (Two things to note: 1. gift box and 2. gift wrapped ok? Two things. Trying to keep’er simple for you.)
• LUSH; This is a hand made cosmetic store franchise. Get over the smell, walk in and buy the biggest PREWRAPPED box filled with their “top selling items”.  They range from about $50 -$200 and they all ROCK, every woman will love it!
• A NEW PHONE: Yes, even women love electronics for Christmas. Please take it to the mall and get it properly gift wrapped.

It’s that simple fella’s. You don’t need to go buy Elizabeth Taylor’s jewels to be a hit. Even Michael Jackson’s Doctor could afford these things. Keep it simple and get it gift wrapped!! GIFT WRAPPED!!

Women reading this, please add comments if you would like to add  “SURE FIRE TIPS” that will help men succeed this Christmas.

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It’s officially fall and I made it through my relationship slump and all is WELL! It’s crazy but it’s the God’s honest truth that my relationship goes through this little ‘blip’ that lasts about two and a half months, right smack dab in the middle of summer.

As a homeschooling mom, who lives in a rainforest 9 months of the year, by the time mid spring rolls around I’m about done with everything. My kids can take a hike, my house’s state of spring cleaning is beyond ignoring and if my husband frets about things getting out of hand in the ‘routine’ department well…he can go unstuck himself! I am literally in a state of “I’m done! Let me enjoy my sunshine, I’ll be back mid September.”

Me thinking that this attitude is actually going to help me have a wonderful summer is embarrassing to admit. I’m such an idiot, I should know better.

I’ve had some insights of ‘self sabotage’ patterns and ‘holding back from ‘having it all’ with a sprinkle of ‘I’m not worthy’. Yah those kind of insights. Ewwww!

As I prepare for a production event I am managing next month, I’ve centered my goals around eliminating these three limiting beliefs and am counting on my team of powerful women to assist in my metamorphosis.

I’m feeling especially grateful that when my marriage is in a slump that I never worry about if we’re going to make it. That isn’t a question I ever ask. The question I ask myself is, “are you still going to love him even if your mad?” “OF COURSE I AM DIMWIT!”

One of the recent things I’ve said to my husband is this, “just because I’m mad doesn’t mean I don’t love you.” This has broken a string of patterns in itself and a tip I think is worthy of charging for. I hope some of you can relate, because sometimes I feel like a freak.
My conclusion is this: Andrea MacLeod needs to go shopping for big girl panties every spring, because she really needs to use em’ during summer or she’s gonna have to live with a grizzly ogre. I declare and vow to change my evil ways next year so that this pattern of destruction is gonzo!
 Thank you for connecting with me today. I am you, and you are me, which means I love you! Keep on keeping on my lovelies.

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Jillian Michaels Interviews Rita Wilson’s Career and Family, Fate, Faith, and Being Bold.

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Rita Wilson is a beloved gem of a woman who has managed a healthy, celebrated marriage for over 20 years in a town that loves to attack happiness. She’s a mom of four beautiful kids who all adore her. She’s a revered producer, celebrated actress on Broadway and the silver screen, dedicated philanthropist, accomplished writer who contributes to such power publications as Harper’s Bazaar and the Huffington Post, where she’s an editor-at-large. She wears so many hats it’s staggering, but the fact that she wears them all so well is what truly bowls me over. For all those reasons I have found her to be deeply impassioned, influential, and motivating, which is why I set my sights on interviewing her.

What annoys the hell out of me about articles, as the writer and the subject, is that there is no way to interpret tone. So much of Rita’s charisma and warmth is in her tone and I hate that you’re missing that, so let me set it for you. Throughout this interview I could feel her smiling through the phone. There’s a steady unwavering in her tone of speech that conveys patience and strength. The rhythms of her sentences are rife with self-deprecating chuckles as well as long introspective pauses, which allow her to craft her thoughts into potent, impactful messages.

And on that note, let’s begin.

Jillian Michaels: Given all that you have accomplished in your life, I wanted to start out by getting a little background on how you came into all these roles you play personally and professionally, found your passion, and so forth? In essence, give us a little insight into the making of a powerhouse.

Rita Wilson: Awww… thank you. Well, I am very proud to be the child of immigrants. I am a first-generation American. My mom is Greek, and my dad, who passed away about a year and a half ago, was Bulgarian. My parents actually met in New York after the war and then moved to Los Angeles after getting married.

I learned from my parents, particularly my dad, a great work ethic. He worked so incredibly hard despite not knowing how to speak English, coming to this country with nothing. He was a bartender, but managed to buy a home and support our entire family without any debt. I learned from him you work hard. You don’t buy anything you can’t afford. Take care of the people who take care of you.

JM: What age were you when you thought to yourself, I want to be an actress, and why? It seems out of the blue given your background.

RW: It was completely out of the blue. The only thing about it that made sense is that when my parents moved to the States, they moved to Hollywood because my mom’s sister lived out here. When I was 14, it was my very first day of high school, Hollywood High School. I was walking to one of my classes and these adults asked if they could take pictures of me. I knew that it was okay because they were there with the school’s principal. So I said “all right.” They took pictures of me, and it turned out those were all people from Harper’s Bazaar magazine, which is so ironic because I write for them now. Turns out, they were looking to cast real people mixed with models in an issue they were doing to celebrate 18-year-olds getting to vote.

JM: So this all started as serendipity?

RW: Yeah, total serendipity. When I realized I could do it, I thought, “Oh! This is cool!” Then Nina Blanchard [modeling agency] signed me and I started modeling. Now, in high school I was also a cheerleader, and a girlfriend of mine had an audition to play a cheerleader on The Brady Bunch. She said to me, “Listen I don’t know how to cheer, I’m really bad at it. Would you teach me?” So I said, “Sure,” and I taught her. Then she asked me to come with her on the audition. So I did, and I was sitting in the waiting room and we were practicing cheers. It turns out there were two parts. The casting people came out and said to me “Are you here to audition?” I said “No.” They said, “Do you want to audition?” and I said “Okay.” So I didn’t get her part, but I got this smaller part –

JM: (rudely interrupting) Pat Conway! (the name of the character Rita played). Yes, I have seen this episode of The Brady Bunch. I still love that show.

RW: Yes, Pat Conway! Which got me my SAG card, making me a member of the Screen Actors Guild, which meant that now I could do commercials. I got my first commercial on my 18th birthday, and it was for Peter Pan Peanut Butter. And from there I got another agent and just started doing a lot of TV work. It was great. I loved it. But up till this point I had never had any formal training.

JM: So this really and truly started out as fate for you. It honestly seems that you were literally guided into this career. Given that, what part do you think fate plays into our ability to find our true calling?

RW: Uh! I think about that all the time, Jillian. I always like to ask people, “What’s the thing that you loved to do as a kid?” because I think whatever you loved to do as a kid you should probably be doing as an adult. We are unfiltered and unfettered at that age, and you do something because you love doing it. When I think back on that, for me it was always music and singing.

While I was acting and modeling I still had regular jobs, and one of them was working as a ticket taker at the Universal Amphitheater, so I could watch the concerts. And everybody came through there at that time. It was the ’70s, so I saw Joni Mitchell, Linda Ronstadt, Fleetwood Mac — I mean you name it, I saw them. I used to look up at the stage and just ache. I thought, “I want to do that! How do you get up there?” But I wasn’t in a band and I didn’t play an instrument. I had no clue at all how to pursue it.

So… I don’t question where my path led me, because I went with the flow. I thought, “I love what I am doing and I am good at it.” So I stuck with it. But I couldn’t… didn’t know how to break into the music thing. I just didn’t know how to do that.http://www.everydayhealth.com/healthy-living/jillian-michaels-interviews-rita-wilson-on-her-career-and-family.aspx

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The trouble with women:    

The woman with the biggest ego wins, but the woman with the biggest  character succeeds 10 fold.

What stands out for me to be a crucial understanding and embrasing of our dark and light sides is this:

* women want to be known
* women compete in relationship
* women in their egos will not yield
* find women you can trust
* find a bigger problem
* do what works

I highly recommend reading this article from the Sunday times in the UK. Good for a chuckle, titled “The trouble with women; forget the fairy tales.”

So if you are ever stuck in a pickle of wondering what to do with a friendship that has gone totally sour for whatever reason, and you can’t seem to move past the pain, here’s some help for you.

The top 10 ways to heal a broken friendship.
10. Take 100% ownership for your wrong doings.
9. Ask for forgiveness and accept whatever their response.
8. speak kindly about her at all times.
7. Stop others from speaking unkindly of her.
6. Trust that your character is being built during this hard time.
5. Be the bigger woman, if she is stuck in not getting over the incident, have the relationship with her on her terms. (this is where big character comes in)
4. The woman with the bigger ego wins, but the woman with the biggest character succeeds 10 fold. (you may never be friends again, but you can be pleasant, kind and generous anyway).
3. Surround yourself with women who will remind you of the wonderful woman that you are.
2. DO NOT FEED the monkeys in your head that are trying to keep you stuck,confused and powerless.
1. Writing her off is what teenagers do so that they can be right,don’t write her off, we’re adults now.

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So the other day I posted how lately I have been pushing the limit on being let off the hook with my behaviour and lack of relationship management because of some events and work commitments I had to complete on. I’ll just get right to the point about what I learned. IF for some reason I need to ask my husband for help because I have deadlines and projects that have become a heavy workload for me, I better make for darn sure I don’t do something as stupid as mess with his man-stuff.

HERE’S THE THING. MEN HAVE VERY LITTLE THEY CAN CALL THEIR OWN ONCE THEY ARE MARRIED.

 He jokes with our boys and says, “What’s her’s is her’s and what’s mine is her’s.” The home is a woman’s domain, it is not and never will be a man-cave. Going to work away from the home is as close to a man cave as he’s gonna get and then when he comes home, he’s not coming home to his safe, familiar, man cave, instead he comes home to a woman’s territory that has no respect for his stuff. He flipped a lid when I didn’t ask him first if I could use his desk as a cake table for my birthday party. “Lighten up” I said “it’s just a table and it was my birthday.” THAT was not the point. It was his table, it was his stuff I moved, and if I would have asked, he would have said yes and everything would be fine. To a woman this makes absolutely no sense. What a freak. But…after thinking about it I thought yah, that was really dumb of me to use something of his without asking him as I’ve known for 20 years that his few things he can call his own, which are less than 5 things, mean a lot to him.

So, wake up call number 64, “NEVER USE ANY OF MY HUSBANDS STUFF WITHOUT ASKING FIRST.” I can never be reminded of this too often.

 I think I need to go buy a new pair of shoes.TweetAndrea.

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Guilty as charged.

I cannot tell a lie. Whenever I have a chance to sit back on my laurels and think that taking a break from being a successful relationship manager is an option, my relationship suffers.

Once a month, yes that time of the  month, if I think of it, I say to my husband, “Honey, I’m going to be getting my period within the week and could use some space.” This has been a very helpful and successful way to avoid unplanned tension in the relationship. It’s like I’ve created a space between us that buffers any chance of me blowing up at him that week. I’ve come to realize that although that question/formula seems to work, I need to be very careful because what I’m really saying is, “Honey, will you please give me a get out of jail for free card this week, because I just know I’m going to be a b#@ch if you don’t give me some space.” So far my husband has gladly given me the space I’ve asked for, but these last two weeks, I had so much going on that I was basically asking him to give me more, and more, and more ‘get out of jail free cards’ not realizing what was happening. After my first big event was over and my second event three days later was over, and then our weekend away was over, I was still acting like I was off the hook having to be responsible for my relationship. I see now that, unless I’ve got someone telling me ‘breaks over’ I’ll just keep wanting more breaks, with no real intention of getting back to work. I am grateful after talking with some of my peers today. I can never be reminded too often that my family always needs to come first; even when I have work or events I’m responsible for.

What can I say, I really enjoy myself when I don’t have to work . I love taking a holiday. But relationships are work, they require daily input and nurturing. It’s kind of like planting a garden and then saying, I’m gonna take a break from tending to it. Oh it will die, and it might run wild with weeds, but surely it will not be a beautiful garden.

Love,

Andrea.
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(BTW, some of you aren’t going to like this article)
Lately as I expand my network of women to over 15,000 I see a trend for the women in their 40’s that are single, the trend looks like this; After years of a dead marriage, they divorce; all for the right reason’s apparently and then she, the wife, starts her enlightenment journey and lives happily ever after.

Womensville realizes the power that a woman taps into when she is liberated.
Leaving an unhealthy relationship so that she can become healthy again is liberating.
Leaving an addict for the safety of herself and the children is liberating.
Reclaiming your power after giving it away for decades is liberating.
Putting an end to the insanity of a failing marriage is liberating. And the list goes on.

Womensville would like to bring that liberating feeling to women in such a way that will keep her family in tact. Helping women get their relationships back on track is the name of the Womensville game. Just like the seasons, our relationships are always in a state of change. If a woman isn’t ready for the great level of responsibility her relationship requires of her, it will surely fail.

Accepting and knowing that we, the women are the only ones who are qualified to successfully manage our relationship can be liberating, with the right attitude!

It is liberating to have ‘ah-ha!’ moments that revive the trust back into a jaded relationship. It’s liberating to understand a new perspective. It’s liberating to witness yourself taking risks as a means to keep your family together. It’s liberating to show your man just how much you care about finding solutions. It’s liberating to say, “Quit messing with our relationship buddy~you have no skills!” It’s liberating to say “Honey, I need some space.” There are so many ways for women to be liberated in their relationships. The key in succeeding with that liberation is knowing if it’s your ego or your commitment that is driving the risk taking that is mandatory for a relationship to grow.

Womensville is here to teach women how to live boldly, love deeply, accept fully and access power and miracles

Womensville is here to teach women how to live boldly, love deeply, accept fully and access power and miracles into her family so that her children can ‘see mom in action.’ This is where your children will truly learn how to have successful relationships. Son’s will seek a wife with these fantastic character traits and daughters will have a role model of what it means to be committed and what it takes to succeed, in all areas of life.

We realize that not every relationship can be saved. Some things are just out of our control.

For those of you who know you could use a little coaching & who need help in staying clear on your long term vision for your relationship and family; come to Womensville.

 We’ll remind you of why you married him and why it’s important for you to take risks in your marriage. We’ll shed light on things that seem impossibly dark. We’ll remind you that “at the moment, you’re in a temporary state of insanity; have faith that the real you will be back shortly if you would just trust.” We’ll show you how to keep the monkey chatter in your head at bay and what to do if you accidentally over fed those monkeys. We’ll help you bring the romance back, heal from heartbreak, and trust when you have no reason to.

Womensville is not for all women; it’s for women who want solutions and who are willing to pay the many installments necessary to keep her family unit together, so that her children don’t have to pay the price for her.

There is great power when a woman can tap into enlightenment and share that depth of maturity with her spouse.

And for the women who are already part of the community of broken families; it’s not too late. The best gift a mom can give to her children is to respect their father, no matter how despicable he is, or what he has done to you or the kids. Respecting that he is on his own personal journey means a lot. Offering blessings and always speaking kindly to and about your children’s father will heal the damage that was done on the day that the family was officially declared dead.

This is what Womensville is. You don’t have to like it; you just have to know that it won’t change. It will always be here for you when you return and offer the same advice that is about supporting the third entity~ your relationship.

I promise to answer every question posted on the forum; and I am so confident that there is a solution to every woman’s relationship problem that if I fail to help you, I’ll buy you a coffee. And if I succeed, perhaps you could buy one for me.

Oh, and one more thing, my very close friends and family call me Andi. I invite you to call me that too, that is if you’d like to become a close friend and be part of  my family.Tweet

This link will take you to our Forum. You can make an anonymous login name to post your questions and set it up to notify you when comments have been made on your post.

Andrea MacLeod
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Last year I discovered the ‘awesome women hub’ on Face book and had an amazing awakening about how many women there are that are making a huge difference to the world.

There are over 14,000 of them just on awesome women’s hub page alone. Imagine how many more there are out there.

This past year I’ve connected with so many amazing conscious women. Women who have their ego’s on a short leash and who have exorbitant amounts of love that are given freely. It has been amazing to witness.

A couple of weeks ago I came across a woman who admitted she had trust issues, at a depth that stemmed back to when she was a toddler. I had the privilege of witnessing her pain, during a retreat exercise.  The unfortunate thing that happened was that since then she’s been expressing that the retreat exercise was dangerous and that we weren’t qualified to lead such an agenda that had women go to the depths of their anger and pain like that. “Maybe she’s right?” I thought.  I’ve been feeling sore and achy doubting my intentions of that retreat ever since. 

Yesterday I went skiing against my will. I pleaded to my boys “I need a lesson! I need to learn how to become one with the powder!” The boys shook their heads and said, “Mom you’ll be fine, you’re a great skier, don’t be afraid of the powder.”

On one run, my first run, I experienced fear at a very deep level, 35cm of overnight proportions deep.   I spoke to myself about trust. “Andrea, it’s soft, it’s fluffy you won’t hurt yourself, just go.” My body was fighting me on it even though I was telling it to knock it off. I’ve been skiing for years, I had no idea why I was all of the sudden scared.

Stiff as a board I went down and landed flat on my face. “See! I knew this wasn’t safe!” Unfortunately my boys weren’t any where to be found. I was alone and could blame no one. I wanted to go home. Especially since the clouds were coming in and visibility was limited.

I got back up and said to myself, “Relax Andrea, take a deep breath, and trust that this is safe, and yes you might fall, but it’s soft and you are warm and dry, it will be ok, just go for the next 60 seconds.” And off I went.

I couldn’t see a thing, the fog socked in hard, but for 60 seconds at a time I decided to trust. For the 6o seconds that I was conscious of trusting, I flowed down the powdery mountain, and then as soon as I didn’t want to trust any more I fell. Getting up was excruciating, especially since one of my poles didn’t have one of those thingies around the bottom of one tip and so it just sunk 5 feet down.  With a great struggle, I got back up, brushed off the snow and took a deep breath. I got to experienced another 60 seconds of what trust felt like when I didn’t think I had it to give and it was an eye opener.

After I found the boys, they suggested I stick to one of the easier runs, and indeed that was a great idea. I had a great day and became one with the powder. It was great having the boys believe in me even when I didn’t believe in myself.

What this experience gave me was a reminder that for some, trusting is excruciating, scary and painful. I learned that me judging others for their inability to trust is actually an invitation for me to love them more. Show them that I am someone they could put their trust in and to be compassionate towards them, encourage them like my boys did with me.

A voice spoke to me as I went up the chairlift alone. He said this,  ”Andrea, there are people who have fallen flat on their faces their entire lives, they’ve been bruised, beaten and bombarded with pain, guilt and shame. Remember how hard it was to try and get up today each time you fell in that deep powder. Imagine having to do that your entire life. Be compassionate to those around you who are doing the best they can to change their paradigms. OH, AND STOP DOUBTING YOURSELF!” INstantly I snapped out of my doubt and I felt free.

One of the things I hate about being a woman is that when everything is going great, all it takes is one person to plant a seed of doubt in my head and then I get sideswiped by ego and low self esteem. I should know better than to entertain seeds of doubt, but I just can’t seem to help it.  This week, recovering from seeds of doubt that were planted in me has taken me falling flat on my face, in order to shake it off.  I always think that recovering from lifes blows was easier than losing a broken ski pole in 5 feet of powder, trying to get back up with two long planks glued to my feet and no good reason to trust. Yah right. NOT.

It’s these uneasy times that truly shape my character. I am greatful today for my humbling experiences even though it felt like crap.

Love, a woman just like you;

Andrea MacLeod.Tweet

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          If you have a husband, do him a huge favor,

          tell him your going to the mall with your girlfriend. I’m 

          betting he’ll be so happy  with the news, that he might

          even say “Here’s a $1,000 take your time.”

I was at the mall this morning with “mini-me”, and as we stopped for lunch at the food fair, I was struck by all the men there.

I was first creeped out by the old, unshaven, loitering men who were staring at me while I agonized in line for what felt like an eternity.

Then as I sat down, far away where no elderly eyeballs could see, I noticed all of the other men sitting with their women having lunch. It was interesting to say the least. Most all were listening to their women with a glazed look over their face with the occasional darting of eyes that were pulled towards the magnetic women who strolled passed. The others sat scratching lotto tickets. All I could think was, “not one of those guys looks happy to be here.” Ladies, if you are single, don’t go the mall to shop for men even though there are plenty of them there. And once you get yourself a boyfriend or if you have husband, do him a huge favor, tell him your going to the mall with your girlfriend and you’ll see him later. I’m betting he’ll be so happy  with the news, that he might even say “Here’s a $1000, take your time.”

Andrea.

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