BUBBLE, BUBBLE, TOIL AND TROUBLE
Memories of that phrase come to mind as I watch the Icelandic Volcano erupt over and over again. It is causing so much disruption in travel, the economy and on personal budgets too. One volcano in a country so far away effecting things we do here right in Canada? Wow, powerful isn’t it?
That makes me think of Anger and how it can cause all sorts of issues, disrupt lives and be felt down the line from where it actually starts from. Did you know Anger can be a by-product of other feelings that are lying underneath the surface and not being dealt with? If not dealt with appropriately at that time, these feelings then sit there, bubbling away until one day – BOOM!!!! – there is a huge explosion that comes out of nowhere and leaves people wondering what the world just happened.
These feelings can be of sadness, feeling irritable or restless, fear, hurt, distant, jealous, confused, frustrated, inadequate, overwhelmed, resentful, guilt, ashamed, embarrassed, helpless, rejected… and the list goes on. Feelings that at the time that they occur, are powerful within themselves, but if left unattended to will fizzle for a bit and bubble until they can overwhelm you into Anger. It is important to go underneath your anger and discover what else lies there.
If this happens to you, ask yourself these questions:
Where did that come from?
What am I not seeing here?
What else am I feeling?
Is there anything I haven’t dealt with from previously that I may need to?
What have I been holding onto that may be ghosting here?
Have I eaten or drank water in the last little while (sometimes thirst or hunger can cause us to blow up when not intending to due to dehydration or low blood sugars)?
The point here is to go beneath the surface and check it out. If these feelings are not dealt with and are constantly shoved under the rug, they will erupt sooner or later and most often under the disguise of Anger.
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