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Trust. Have you got it to give?

Honey, sweet heart, pumpkin… you can do aaaaannnnnything you want and I’ll never stop trusting you. Never! This is the kind of trust that is needed in building a 50 year marriage.  Without Trust, the level of love in a marriage does not grow in depth; it just stays fragile hovering on the surface. In a marriage; love will come and go. Each year our feelings for each other will fade and return, just as the seasons change. The love that all married couples seek,can be found in Trust.
Look at trust the way you look at an insurance
policy. Making monthly installments is not that hard, for some it feels automatic; hardly giving it a second thought. Trust is also quite effortless when all is going well.  Now imagine a crisis happens and you need to make  an insurance claim and your broker says, “We’re not going to cover you. We don’t think you deserve it.” Trust is the insurance policy guaranteed to cover you when you need it most. When things go wrong and we want to pull the trust away; is precisely when we need to trust the most. Honey, sweetheart, pumpkin… You can do aaaannnnything you want and I’ll never stop trusting you. Never. This kind of trust will set your marriage back on track if it has fallen off, and will heal all wounds caused by an ever recovering broken heart.  Trust is what moves marriages to a deeper level of love.  Trust is what teaches our children how to be responsible, is what builds character and is what transforms lives.  Trust is a gift we give.

Do you think you have what it takes to succeed in a 50 year marriage? Because, really, this is it. Being married is hard. Being happily married takes work. Work normally isn’t always fun. Work takes commitment, and discipline and being responsible.  Then once you are in the groove of success and have figured out how to bounce back from stuff that randomly happens, you will have more and more fun as the years go on.          
          Get through several dozen trials and character building challenges; that’s what builds a relationship into something magical.

Written by Andrea MacLeod, Vancouver BC

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The best way for a woman to reduce her own personal problems is to find a cause bigger than herself and contribute to it.

There is nothing more inspiring than seeing a woman give of herself, to a cause that resonates with what makes her heart sing.

When a woman has a project at work or in her community or family that is bigger than she thinks she can handle is when she gets to see just how capable she is. It’s a pleasant surprise.

Womensville encourages women to step outside their comfort zone and give of them self.

We think you’ll like who you are when you are giving of yourself to needy charities or projects in your own back yard.

Self-doubt and depression are your own personal villains. If Low Self Esteem is all about acting and feeling needy, the opposite of that must be feeling and acting generous.

No matter how low a woman’s life can be, the minute she performs a generous act of kindness her entire day can be filled with joy. I know a woman who goes to the drive through for coffee on her way to work, just so that she can secretly pay for the person behind her and then carry those feelings of goodness into her day. I realize it is incredibly hard to get out of the darkness of doubt and depression sometimes, especially if your life is in that pit more than you wish it were.

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What WV thought of the Alpha Course.

We are all on a path towards the things that make our hearts sing. Indeed I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if I didn’t keep seeking answers to the questions that were ringing deep inside my own heart. One day I discovered the Alpha Course and I would like to share with you my oppinion of it. Thanks for listening. May peace and joy be with you.

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Stuck. Accidental or intentional?

We all know what it feels like to be stuck in our relationships. It’s when we know that ‘this or that’ particular ‘thing’ is never going to change. We are resigned to the years of trying to make things different, but alas here we are again. After a woman stays here long enough, she will slowly come to her senses and realize this is no way to live. The unfortunate part is that if she is married and has children, her leaving is no less a feeling than a death in the family.  For some strange reason women in North America think that quitting is an option. We think that there indeed are somethings that we will never be able to change, which is true. That being said, we have access to miracles every day. The miracle I’ve had happen to me was releasing my husband from blame and assuming 100% responsibility for all of the poor ways I’ve responded to his character defects. I now get to see that if ever I am thinking that someone else’s behavior is my problem, that is me intentionally victimizing myself. Look at me, I’m the victim here. eeeew. I have never felt so liberated in all my 17 years of marriage. I honestly thought that the wanker that lived inside my husband was the problem. I think I just might be scratching the surface on what it’s like to be enlightened,(dare I say?)  I honestly feel like the amount of love that I have inside of me, which is deep and wide, provided from God almighty himself, is literally oozing from my pours and I no longer seem to be blaming anyone for anything any more. No one owes me anything. I like that. I have nothing to prove because the truth is, the success of my marriage and relationships with my family and friends are all that really matter in my life. I love my life. I love the trees outside my living room windows. I even love this ugly old brown carpet.It keeps my feet warm. All those years I felt stuck in so many ways, mainly because I had to admit that I had no control over someone else’s behavior. And by my throwing my hands in the air with frustration, it gave me permission to respond less than who I wanted to be.  I love my husband, wanker and all.

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